Pleasure isn't some abstract concept reserved for the elite or the irresponsible.
It is, however, a birthright that needs to be embraced, a mental state, a noun, and a verb. It's something that, when done intentionally and mindfully, can be a powerful tool for transformation. When practiced as a discipline, pleasure can provide us with balance and insight, increased energy and creativity, deeper relationships with self and others, emotional resilience, and a greater sense of purpose in life.
While pleasure as a practice may seem out of reach, with a different perspective we may find it surprisingly easy to embrace.
Get in touch with your senses.
One of the easiest ways to practice is to tap into our sensory pleasures. Take some time to really focus on what you see, smell, taste, feel, and hear. Pay attention to the textures, colors, and scents around you. Taste your food slowly and savor. the. flavors. Touch things lightly and notice the different sensations. Listen to the sounds around you and appreciate the music you love. The more you focus on your senses, the more pleasure you will be able to experience. What emotions and memories are conjured? What ideas are inspired? These may be further clues leading to your bliss.
Do something you enjoy every day.
Another way to practice pleasure is to make sure you do something you enjoy every day. This can be something as simple as taking a relaxing bath or reading your favorite book. It can also be something more adventurous like going for a hike or trying a new kink. Whatever it is, make sure it brings you joy and makes you feel good. We want to focus on healthy pleasures also, so eating foods that taste good and offer short-term satisfaction, but leave your body in a state of discomfort may not be the highest vibrational choice!
Be present at the moment.
It’s also important to aim to be present at every moment. This means being fully aware of what you are doing, your breathing, your body, and its responses to your environment, and bringing your awareness back when it wanders off into other thoughts or worries. When you are fully present, you will be able to tune into every moment of the experience. There are times when viewing through our mind's eye is beneficial, and in those moments of expanded consciousness, we can tap into deeper pleasure with ourselves and our lovers, but only through presence and awareness of the subtle bodies.
Make time for yourself.
Finally, make sure you make time for yourself when practicing pleasure. This means setting aside some time each day (and other regular intervals) that is just for you and your own enjoyment. During this time, do things that make you happy and make sure there are no distractions or obligations pulling you away from the moment. Pleasure embodiment, like any sacred practice, is just that, a practice.
I've opened up my coaching calendar again now that things are in full motion at Dark Haven ATL, and am ready to help you find yourself again in pleasure and peace. Consultations are no cost, and no obligation. Sometimes we just need a different approach to things.
in bliss and love,