A different look at Mother's Day
Mother’s Day is a special day to celebrate and honor our mothers, grandmothers, and mother figures. While this day is filled with joy and appreciation for the love and care that our mothers have given us, it can also bring up painful emotions for those who have experienced the mother wound.
The mother wound is a term coined by psychotherapist Bethany Webster to describe the pain, grief, and trauma that can arise from our early experiences with our mothers. It is not necessarily caused by our mothers themselves, but rather by the patriarchal culture that creates unrealistic expectations for women and motherhood. This can lead to mothers feeling unfulfilled, overwhelmed, and unsupported, which can impact their relationships with their children.
Healing the mother wound is a journey that involves acknowledging and processing the pain and trauma that we have experienced. Here are some steps you can take to begin this healing process:
1. Acknowledge your pain: It’s important to acknowledge and validate the pain that you have experienced as a result of the mother wound. This can be difficult and painful, but it is a necessary step in the healing process.
2. Understand the mother wound: Educate yourself about the mother wound and how it can impact your life. This can help you to understand that your experiences are not unique and that healing is possible.
3. Connect with other people: Seek out support from others who have experienced the mother wound. This can be in the form of therapy, support groups, or online communities.
4. Practice self-compassion: Be kind and gentle with yourself as you navigate the healing process. Remember that healing is a journey and that it takes time and effort.
5. Set boundaries: If your relationship with your mother did/ is causing you harm, it’s important to set boundaries to protect yourself. This can involve limiting contact or setting clear expectations for the relationship.
6. Find alternative sources of nurturing: If you didn’t receive the nurturing and support that you needed from your mother, seek out other sources of support and care. This can be from friends, partners, or even from within yourself through self-care practices.
Healing the mother wound is a process that can take time and effort, but it is possible. By acknowledging and processing the pain that we have experienced, we can begin to move towards a place of healing and wholeness. On this Mother’s Day, let us honor and celebrate the love and care that Mother Earth provides, and practice bring more nurturing to ourselves and others.
XOXO Divine Rae