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20 Admirable Traits for an S/type to Possess

1. Communication Skills: Effective communication is vital for expressing desires, limits, and concerns clearly and openly.

2. Trustworthiness: Trust and reliability are essential for building a strong foundation of trust in the dynamic.

3. Respect: Demonstrating respect for the Dominant's authority, boundaries, and decisions contributes to a harmonious relationship.

4. Curiosity: An inquisitive and open-minded submissive can bring a sense of exploration and excitement to the dynamic.

5. Adaptability: Being adaptable to the Dominant's guidance and adjusting to different scenarios helps maintain a flexible and dynamic relationship.

6. Patience: Patience in understanding the Dominant's intentions and pacing contributes to a positive and respectful dynamic.

7. Sensitivity: Being attuned to the Dominant's cues and desires helps create a fulfilling and satisfying experience for both parties.

8. Willingness to Serve: A willingness to (consensually) fulfill the Dominant's needs and desires demonstrates a genuine commitment to the dynamic.

9. Gratitude: Expressing appreciation for the Dominant's efforts and attention contributes to a positive and affirming atmosphere.

10. Self-Awareness: Understanding one's own desires, limits, and boundaries is essential for effective communication and consent.

11. Empathy: Demonstrating empathy and understanding towards the Dominant's perspective and emotional needs fosters a deeper emotional connection.

12. Obedience: Willingly following the Dominant's instructions within agreed-upon boundaries is a cornerstone of a submissive's role.

13. Resilience: Having the ability to handle challenges and setbacks with grace and resilience contributes to a healthy dynamic.

14. Honesty: Being honest about feelings, experiences, and needs helps maintain open and authentic communication.

15. Joy in Serving: Finding satisfaction and joy in serving the Dominant's desires adds a sense of fulfillment to the dynamic.

16. Learning Mindset: Being eager to learn and grow within the dynamic and the broader BDSM community shows dedication and commitment.

17. Self-Care: Practicing self-care and maintaining personal well-being ensures a strong foundation for contributing to the dynamic. Pointing to the Prime Directive in BDSM: Protect the Property.

18. Curated Boundaries: Setting and communicating clear and well-defined boundaries ensures a safe and respectful experience.

19. Grace under Pressure: Handling intense or challenging situations with composure and grace reflects emotional maturity.

20. Openness to Feedback: Being receptive to the Dominant's guidance and feedback contributes to personal growth and a strong bond.

It's important to note that the traits admired in a submissive can vary greatly based on the preferences and dynamics of each BDSM relationship. Open and honest communication between both partners is essential for understanding and aligning expectations.

-Xir Divine Rae

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