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20 Admirable Traits for D/types to Possess

At Divine Kink Academy, we try to stay away from "good/bad" and "fake/real" when it comes to D/types. After all, we believe in the expansion of consciousness, and the ability to learn and grow in all ways. In a small survey, we narrowed down some traits considered universally admirable within D/types. Here's the list.



1. Communication Skills: A Dominant should be an effective communicator, able to express desires, boundaries, and expectations clearly.


2. Empathy: The ability to understand and resonate with the feelings and experiences of the submissive is crucial for fostering trust and connection.


3. Respect: Respect for the submissive's boundaries, consent, and autonomy is essential in maintaining a healthy and safe dynamic.


4. Responsibility: A Dominant takes responsibility for the physical and emotional well-being of the submissive, ensuring their safety and comfort.


5. Consistency: Being consistent in actions and decisions helps establish a sense of stability and predictability in the dynamic.


6. Confidence: Confidence in their role and decisions helps create a secure and reassuring environment for the submissive.


7. Patience: Patience is key in understanding the submissive's needs and allowing them to explore and grow at their own pace.


8. Adaptability: Being open to adapting and adjusting the dynamic based on feedback and changing circumstances demonstrates flexibility and consideration.


9. Integrity: A Dominant acts with honesty, transparency, and integrity in all interactions.


10. Listening Skills: Actively listening to the submissive's concerns, desires, and feedback fosters trust and understanding.


11. Leadership: Providing clear guidance and direction while valuing the submissive's input is a hallmark of effective leadership.


12. Creativity: A creative Dominant can introduce new experiences, scenarios, and activities that keep the dynamic exciting and engaging.


13. Self-Control: Maintaining emotional control and not letting personal emotions negatively impact the dynamic is important for a safe and respectful environment.


14. Sensitivity: Being attuned to the submissive's emotions, physical sensations, and comfort levels demonstrates care and consideration.


15. Knowledge: A good Dominant possesses a solid understanding of BDSM practices, safety protocols, and consent dynamics.


16. Time Management: Managing time and commitments effectively ensures that the submissive's needs and the dynamic are adequately addressed.


17. Problem-Solving Skills: The ability to navigate challenges and conflicts while finding constructive solutions is important for maintaining a harmonious dynamic.


18. Understanding of Submissive's Limits: A good Dominant respects and honors the submissive's limits, both physical and emotional.


19. Nurturing Nature: Balancing dominance with a nurturing and supportive demeanor helps create a well-rounded and caring dynamic.


20. Continuous Learning: A great trait for a Dominant to possess is being open to learning and growing, both within their role and in their understanding of their submissive's needs.


Remember, BDSM dynamics are highly individual, and what makes a "good" Dominant can vary based on the specific needs, desires, and boundaries of the individuals involved. Open communication and mutual respect are the cornerstones of a healthy and fulfilling BDSM relationship.


-Xir Divine Rae

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